Fight Or Flight
Definition: The instinctive physiological response to a threatening situation, which readies one either to resist forcibly or to run away. This is the general definition we know or have heard of, but did you know this phrase totally applies to Motherhood as well. I never realized it, or knew about the connection until I heard Stephanie from A Mother’s Movement speak about it at our first Our Anak Motherhood Retreat.
Fight or Flight
The instinctive physiological response to a threatening situation, which readies one either to resist forcibly or to run away
Motherhood is WERK. Whether you have one babe, five kids, or more… Our mental + physical capacity is pushed to its limit every day. Stress levels vary from person to person, some people have coping tools + some don’t, some have a village around them they can call on, others only have themselves to rely on. Whatever the case may be we our body kicks in to Fight Or Flight mode on the daily.
A little bit of this is normal, our body knows to rise to the occasion, or rest + recover when it’s done. But I just recently learned (and perhaps it’s common sense for most) that because we are pushing ourselves to the limits every day, consistently, regularly or more often than we should be, we are making our bodies (physical + mental) work in overdrive too hard and too often.
As the saying goes, too much of a good thing (or bad thing for that matter) is never a positive thing. Imagine running yourself rampant every day, the stress it puts on you mentally + physically, the barely there recovery time because you’re not giving yourself space to slow down, or sleep even. The list goes on…
We are pushing ourselves to the limits every day, consistently, regularly or more often than we should be, we are making our bodies (physical + mental) work in overdrive too hard/too often.
I had a chance to speak to several mamas about this, and they’ve all had different experiences with it. One has pushed herself so hard, having multiple babies, running her own business, on top of everything else pushed her so hard (without her even realizing what was happening) she started to have panic attacks. I guess the body’s way to take over + say, “hey, you need a time out. I’m shutting you down”.
Another mama, was going 100 miles an hour daily. From jumping out of bed, to running through their day, with kids, activities, work, meetings, commitments, events, and then never fully recouping with a full night’s sleep for weeks (months) on end. Immune system weakens, clear cognition issues, weight gain… whatever the case may be, your body isn’t getting its much needed recovery time.
On Joe Rogan’s YouTube Channel he interviews Matthew Walker, a Professor of Neuroscience and Psychology at the University of California, Berkeley, and Founder and Director of the Center for Human Sleep Science. Definitely worth checking out, and so much great information about why rest, sleep, recovery and more are so important for us to be functioning at our optimal.
The take away here is… Talk about it. Talk about what you’re going through, or maybe what you might be going through, or not sure you’re going through. Share. Find your mama gang. Seek out professional counselling. Drop me an email. Reach out to your friends. Reach out to your strong friends, who “have it all together”. We all go through things + support gets you through it. Xx