While raising kids, who doesn't learn something new every day? Whether you have a newborn or a teenager, who doesn't face unexpected challenges on the regular? And really, who doesn't experience shit just hitting the fan every now + then? And our answer to this... enjoying a night out sans bebes, not for dinner + drinks but to hear Dr Shefali speak about something called, Conscious Parenting. What was I expecting, I'm not sure really. What I do know is, I'm always down to learn something new and see something from a different perspective.
Dr Shefali is psychologist, a woman, a mother, an immigrant, an international speaker... but more so, a parent who understands the parent-child dynamic, and how to build a strong relationship between the two and support an indpendent growing being (and more so a funny parent who truly gets the daily struggles). She specializes in the integration of Eastern philosophy and Western psychology, making her an expert in her field.
specializes in the integration of Eastern philosophy and Western psychology, making her an expert in her field.
A few take-aways for me, and really hit home as it's something I'm learning + trying to be mindful of daily...
“It is what it is.” This means we parent our children as our children are, not as we might wish them to be.”
- “Once you accept your children’s basic nature, you can contour your style to meet their temperament. To do so means letting go of your fantasies of yourself as a certain kind of parent and instead evolving into the parent you need to be for the particular child in front of you.”
“When you parent, it’s crucial you realize you aren’t raising a “mini me,” but a spirit throbbing with its own signature. For this reason, it’s important to separate who you are from who each of your children is. Children aren’t ours to possess or own in any way. When we know this in the depths of our soul, we tailor our raising of them to their needs, rather than molding them to fit our needs.”
Do you have any parenting go-to's? Favourite books? Favourite Gurus? We'd love to hear about it.